STICK WITH YOUR DESIRES

What are your true desires?

In order to live consciously, you’ll often need to release socially conditioned habits and behaviors that don’t serve you in the area of relationships, you don’t have to stick with the traditional dating model. If you love going out on dates, then this model may be fine for you. But if you’d really like to connect in other ways, then there’s no point in approaching new relationships from a traditional dating frame.

Is it wise to make love with someone on the first date? I suggested that if you simply want to make love with someone, you can skip the first date entirely and go straight to your desires. Focus on attracting partners who want the same thing. Don’t broadcast that you want to date someone if you really just want someone to sleep with. There are many people who’d prefer to enjoy a sexual connection first without all the baggage that dating entails. Then if they enjoy the sexual chemistry, they may choose to deepen that connection. However, such people won’t know that you hold the same opinion if you keep quiet about your true desires and blindly follow socially conditioned rules.

It began by discussing what you both wanted to experience in terms of D/s and making love games, including spelling out in detail some of the things you wanted to try. Getting to know each other in person, it's easy to dive straight into the shared experiences you both wanted. Shortly after walking in the door, you were already making out. You did enjoy many fun dates in the weeks ahead, but only after you’d shared lots of physical intimacy together. Maybe this approach seems backwards compared to the traditional dating-then-make love, but it worked out beautifully for you both

Since the connection began with such openness and honesty, it’s been incredibly frictionless and blissful. For example, since you know that you’re both physical affection whores, you sleep cuddled in each others’ arms, hold hands as we walk down the street, enjoy long jacuzzi nights, and smooch each other constantly.

Spending time with each other, whether you cuddle up to watch a movie or go out and do something fun. Your connection has been strong at least in part because you both connected on the basis of what you both wanted to experience as opposed to blindly following a socially conditioned model of what a relationship is supposed to look like. If you followed a more traditional rules, most likely you never would have connected like this at all. you’d have missed out on so much fun, happiness, and love.