On paper, write down all the qualities of your perfect mate. Visualize this person coming into your life. Visualize this person who has all the qualities you desire, and keep repeating this visualization process. You will eventually materialize this person into life. If you're just looking to date and have fun, visualize that as well. The point is, if there is something specific you want, make that your main focus. Don't visualize what you don't want.
We live in a world where the internet has become a huge integral part of our lives. Our lives revolve around a blitzkrieg of emails, ip addresses, blogs, and social networking sites. People are meeting individuals through social networking sites such as Myspace, Friendster, Fanbox, and the more popular Facebook. Personally, social networking sites may be a good starting point to finding someone, and sometimes it works, but is it really realistic? People lie about who they are and can put anything on their profiles. Individuals post pictures of themselves that are long outdated. The good thing about social networking sites is you can "weed" through profiles of undesirables and then contact people you are actually interested in getting to know. Cyberspace connections also reduce the fear of rejection; because if someone happens to "reject" you through email or messages, it's not as devastating as hearing someone "reject" you over the phone or in person.
Now my thoughts on texting...I know we live in a time where texting is the new form of conversation. I personally think its fine to text occasionally, but it SHOULD NOT be the main form of conversation. I would rather hear from a guy on the phone than receive an impersonal text. What's with all the guys trying to ask girls for dates through text messages? Again, it's another way to reduce the feeling of rejection. To me, a real man will call me in person and ask for that date. Ladies would rather hear a man's beautiful voice than receive a block of cold text messages through their phones.
Another point I would like to make is don't send kinky sex pictures of yourselves until the girl or guy is comfortable receiving them...and that constitutes at least the second date. I personally think it's a big turn off to receive pictures of such." But who knows...some girls might think it's a turn on. I personally don't think it's necessary until a lady is actually comfortable with a guy...then it could be fair game.
A lot of women out there think all the "good ones" are taken. The "good ones" are the men who treat their women with respect, love, and gratitude; they are the guys who still open the door for women, remember anniversaries and important dates, shower their women with gifts of affection, and treat their women like queens. But I definitely know there are good men out there. So for men, if you want to impress a woman, show her your sensitive and romantic side. Prove to that special woman that chivalry IS NOT dead.
Sure, games are fun to play, and at the beginning stages of dating, we all play games. Women test men in every capacity. Guys also have their little mind games. But the good thing about games is that they end. Eventually, if you really like someone, you stop the game playing and you tell the other person how you really feel. If you want to date someone exclusively, you just need to be honest and let the other person know how you are feeling...that way you both know how you stand; don't waste your time on someone who doesn't feel the same way.
Sometimes you have to date a lot of people just to find that one diamond in the rough. And it's fun to date. As long as you are upfront and honest to the people you are dating, you should have no feelings of guilt. Dating is a process of selection. If after one date you don't feel "it" move on. If potential is there don't run away...explore what's there before giving it up. You don't want to regret feeling you might have let "the one" slip away because you were too hasty.
No matter how and where you are meeting people, ALWAYS be HONEST. Hiding something crucial about yourself, withholding information, etc will ALWAYS come back to bite you in the ass. No matter how small or big the lie is, if your significant other discovers you've been less than honest with him/her it might be the end of the relationship. Don't risk it. I understand people lie to make themselves look better, or they lie to impress the other person, but lying isn't the best way to start a relationship. If a person can lie about something so small, who's to say they won't lie about more important matters.
When you're on a date, always be yourself. Trying to act like someone else is doing a big disservice to yourself and the person you are on a date with. If you're not being yourself, how can the other person see all the great qualities you have to offer? Just loosen up, relax, and picture yourself having a great time in a exotic place; when you're comfortable and confident with yourself, the other person will feel that way about you too.
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